The Quarrelsome Person: The Most Disliked by Allah



Islam is a religion that teaches humanity morals, patience, gentleness, and brotherhood. The entire life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was a practical demonstration of the character a Muslim should adopt and how one should treat others.
Unfortunately, in today’s era, we often see people quarreling over trivial matters; harsh words and hard hearts take control of them.

It is important to remember that a quarrelsome person is the most disliked by Allah Almighty. Yes! This is not just a general saying but is proven by the noble Hadith of the Prophet ﷺ.

Prophetic Saying ﷺ

It is narrated from Aisha (RA) that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

“The most hated person to Allah is the one who is quarrelsome.”
(Sahih Bukhari, Book of Manners, Hadith: 2457)

In this blessed Hadith, the Prophet ﷺ clearly instructed us to avoid this bad habit. Being quarrelsome means a person constantly tries to dominate others, argues excessively, makes everything an issue of ego, and refuses to overlook and forgive.

Harms of Being Quarrelsome

It is essential to understand that a quarrelsome person not only ruins their Hereafter but also destroys their life in this world. Such a person loses respect, people start avoiding them, peace is taken away from the home, relationships fall apart, and chaos spreads in society.

Gentleness is the Sunnah

The Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ is to speak gently, show patience even when disagreements arise, and remain silent if matters escalate.
In another Hadith, the Prophet ﷺ said:

“Whoever gives up disputing even when he is in the right, I guarantee for him a house in Paradise.”
(Abu Dawood, Book of Manners, Hadith: 4800)

Meaning, even if one is right but leaves arguing solely for the pleasure of Allah, Allah Almighty will grant him Paradise in return.

Today’s Reflection: Following Desires and Quarreling

In the image, there is a very important reminder:

“Desires lead a person towards falsehood.”

This is absolutely true. Often, due to desires and ego, a person chooses the wrong path. They simply want to impose their opinion, even if it is incorrect. That is why Allah commands us not to follow our desires but to make decisions with justice.

Practical Steps

  • First, control your anger.

  • Avoid disputes and arguments, even when you are right.

  • Use gentle speech, and forgive.

  • Be someone who builds relationships, not someone who breaks them.

  • Place the pleasure of Allah above everything else.

Conclusion

Let’s pledge today to make our tongues, our behavior, and our hearts gentle. Let’s adopt patience and forgiveness.
Quarreling does not improve either this world or the Hereafter — but patience and gentleness improve both.
May Allah grant us the ability to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ and to purify our hearts from jealousy, hatred, and quarrelsome behavior. Ameen.

Reference:

Prophetic Saying ﷺ:

“Indeed, the most hated man to Allah is the one who is quarrelsome.”
(Sahih Bukhari: 2457, Book of Manners)